Encouragement For Women

Monday, May 11, 2015

Updating My Spring Wardrobe

For this spring, I already have a lot of great stuff. I pulled out my summer wardrobe from last year, packed away the winter wardrobe, and still have great pieces that are versatile for use all year. The only additions I made so far are two solid tank tops, two graphic tank tops, and a necklace. My lifestyle is simple and I really didn't need anything new but a girl wants to shop sometimes. 
I went shopping on Saturday for something teal to show my support for a friend who buried her mother that day after a damn good fight against cancer. I never actually met the woman, but reading what her daughter wrote about her and the stories she shared changed me a little. She was such a giver, so caring, and had a great sense of humor. I only wish I'd had the chance to actually know her. She raised an amazing daughter who is raising three amazing children of her own. A beautiful family. 
The tanks were buy one get one half off and I can always use a basic black tank so that put me at two. Yesterday was Mother's Day. I went shopping with one of my sister while the boys hung out at home. I had eyed the tank with the tie Saturday, but assumed it wouldn't look good because I have a bit of a mom "belly sag" and stretch marks, but I decided to suck it up and try it on, plus my sister needed something nice to wear to a school thing. (She got such a cute top that I'm so jealous of. But I can borrow it! Yay! And she looked great in it.) it's long enough that it doesn't show belly and I love it. The flag shirt jumped at me as I was about the check out and they had the necklace paired with it already. I know, a jumping shirt, scary right? I'm still considering a really cute pair of earring shaped like wrenches. So that's that. Use what you have and add a couple of fun things because it's fun!

Friday, February 27, 2015

My favorite way to make oatmeal

It's so simple. My old favorite had butter in it also, but I don't miss it. I use the Quaker 1 minute oats because I need very fast prep in the morning. Start by making yourself a cup of coffee (or tea). On the stovetop, heat 1cup whole milk. The whole milk is the key to creamy delicious oatmeal. Once it's very hot, add 1/2cup oats. Mix in 1tablespoon brown sugar, then pour into your breakfast bowl. Let it thicken while you drink your coffee. It will be the perfect warm temperature and thickness. This oatmeal as prepared is 352 calories. It will keep you fill until lunch, even if you're a snacker like me. Well, like I used to be. Since I've been paying more attention to what  eating, I don't need to snack as much or at all. Before, I would get dizzy without snacks. Now, I feel satisfied all day.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Every day makeup

Ha ha just kidding. I don't wear makeup everyday. But when I do, it's a simple look. I wish I did my makeup everyday. It's a small thing that makes me feel like the woman I used to be and not just mom. Not that "just mom" is bad. Not that I long for the life I had before kids. But it's good to feel like myself amongst the toys I pick up a zillion times a day, the dinner I make that mostly ends up uneaten. It's good to feel a little pretty when I have a giant dried booger on my neck from holding my crying toddler (that I just noticed three hours later). So here's what I use for a fresh, pretty face. 
Foundation primer. So it stays thought my busy day. This one has spf so it's great for summer days when we're outside a lot. 
Cream to powder foundation. Make sure you moisten the sponge before getting the foundation, it goes on smoother. 
Highlighting pen. Makes me look like I've sport great when I haven't. Perky eyes. 
Cream blush. This is my perfect color. I don't look so drained with blush. 
Mascara. You just have to have mascara.
Lip balm. Soft lips are sexy. 

Thursday, January 22, 2015

American Sniper

I was going to review the movie but it sounds like everyone's pretty much heard of it by now. I'll just say that overall it was a good movie. A certain scene was a bit intense for me, the reality that you can't save everyone and that some people are fuckers who will burn in hell. 

I am so sick of all the negativity about how American Sniper is a disgrace and glorifies killing. It's not glorifying it, it tore him up to kill. But he did it because it was necessary to SAVE the American soldiers. People go to see the movie about a sniper and they expect WHAT? It's sad. There's terrible stuff in it. But that's WAR. That's the reality of war. People fight. People die. You may not agree with war, but to sit there and say he's a bad guy when he's the hero who ptotected our men and women on the ground is so wrong.
In response to a question I got to confirm that he dropped a baby:
He did. He shot a boy, looked about 8. The boys mom sent him to run after the Americans with a Russian grenade. Of course Kyle hated to do it, but the other option was let everyone else die. And that fucking mother! She wasn't even phased that her son had gotten shot. She ran out and I thought I was going to see motherly compassion and loss but she grabbed the grenade and kept running toward them. 
I'm not claiming war is pretty. I know it's not. 
There's also another time he shot a man with a gun and a boy ran over, picked it up, and the whole time he was whispering "don't pick it up! don't pick it up! put it down! put it down!" He didn't like killing people. He did what he had to do. (The boy put it down if you were wondering)

If you don't want to see a movie about the realities of war, don't go to see it. Simple as that. But stop bitching about it and putting down the men and women risking their lives over there!

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Having more kids?

Having a second child is a big decision. The question of "I have an easy baby so does that mean I'll have a hard baby next?" comes up a lot. I can only share my experience. 
 As for having two easy babies, I do. They aren't perfect, but they are very much the same. The difference between my first and second, is my attitude about it. When I had Aiden, I prepared myself for being up all night. I was happy to spring out of bed as many times as I needed to. I was patient as I taught him not to do certain things and how to do other things. I didn't mind that he took my time that could be spent cleaning the toilet. With Carter, my expectations had changed and I'm only now starting to see that. I've been working on my attitude so I can enjoy my children and they can enjoy me. There is impatience in my tone now. Not all the time, I know I'm not terrible, but it's there sometimes and I feel terrible about it. When Carter was born, I was used to Aiden sleeping all night and in his own bed, and then I had a baby who slept like a baby-not much. Same as Aiden had been as a baby, but it didn't feel that way. Looking back on the journal I kept when Aiden was a baby, I can see that they're developing at the same pace. The other difference is that I now have two, so no matter how they behave, I don't have that extra alone time like I did with just one. Nap time with one is a little reprieve to regroup. With two, you don't get that. But nap time for the youngest is a great way to get back some quality time with just the oldest. Another thing that comes into play (for me) is that I worked full time until I had Carter, so until Aiden was two I was gone a lot. I had put my time in working and was ready to give my full attention to my baby. With Carter I've always been home during the day (short time of working evenings and he was with daddy), but with being home I use a lot of my patience during the day and have a hard time mustering up more at bedtime. With Aiden, every stage got better and I loved seeing him grow and discover. With Carter, I know it gets better and I catch myself wishing we were a few stages ahead, when I should be enjoying where he is. They're both great boys, and I'm so happy I have them. I love being a mother. As for having a third...we don't know. We want to enjoy the boys we have and spend time with them. On the other hand, we love our boys so much and we could easily love another. So maybe we'll have another baby. Maybe ones already cooking? Only God knows. 

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Fresh Space

I didn't set out to freshen up my bedroom, it just happened. After everyone asked what we needed for Christmas, then bought us fun stuff because we didn't need anything, both sets of our bed sheets got holes and tears. I didn't have to buy the comforter, but I did. The only excuse I have is our old one is ugly. It's also a hand me down, so I don't feel guilt buying a new one because I never have. Of course, I'm functional and we will keep the old one just in case we need it. (Cough...I forget to switch the laundry...cough) Handy Amazon suggested these cute matching throw pillows, which I love! Throw pillows and blankets are a thing of mine. I just love them. Cozy. Snuggly. 
So now our bedroom will have a fresh feel and its a little masculine instead of super girly, which is sort of where it was headed before. I was leaning toward a garden/beach theme previously. Now I've decided to go with beachy, but still somewhat manly with the clean lines and dark colors. 

Thursday, December 25, 2014

Merry Christmas!

I hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas! We sure did. I started my holiday baking on Monday the 22nd. I had two of my sisters over, Starrlee and Lilli. Along with them and my two boys, we made m&ms cookies, chocolate covered pretzels, white chocolate pudding cookies, sugar free peanut butter cookies, and sugar free oatmeal cookies. We mixed the dough for overnight chilling for the next day of baking, and played a lot of hide and go seek. 
On the 23rd, Alyssa came over and we made the sugar cookies and apricot raspberry rugelach. We played more hide and seek. It's Aiden's favorite game right now. 
On Christmas Eve, I made brownies for a trifle I took to the Christmas party with Steve's family that night. Layers of brownies, strawberries, and cool whip. Sooo yummy! I also assembled the layered Jell-O shots for the party at my moms today.  We had an amazing Christmas dinner on Christmas Eve, and the boys got some adorable books for the book exchange. I love The Duckling Gets A Cookie!? 
This morning was perfect. The boys love everything they got and I love that we didn't go overboard on gifts. We do three gifts from us to represent the three gifts Jesus got as a baby, and Santa leaves one gift and fills stockings. The stockings had an ornament for each of them right on top, and Aiden has been asking for a bell from Santa's sleigh (polar express). His ornament is the bell, "THE FIRST GIFT OF CHRISTMAS!" The guns and swords were such big fun and got out lots of energy before the party this afternoon, and the ball pit and kitchen set were huge hits for both of them! It took less than half and hour to unwrap, so we got to spend a large chunk of the morning playing with the boys. I had wanted to do a nice breakfast, but decided on simple. Eggs and toast. They didn't want to stop playing anyway. 
We had great family time at my moms this afternoon, and we face timed my dad. It was nice to see him. We got great gifts, including a couple of books I wanted, play food, a Mickey Mouse car, and a farting hippo. But the best part was everyone being together. Christmas has always been a special time for me. I hope my boys have as special memories as I do of this magical time of year. Celebrating the birth of our Savior, family time, and giving as well as gratefully receiving. BEST CHRISTMAS EVER!