Encouragement For Women

Monday, January 6, 2014

Crying babies and toddler tantrums

I do not believe in letting a baby cry it out. I think it's horrible to let your baby cry for you and give up because they realize mommy doesn't care. My heart brakes when my baby cries and I can't get to him right away. Here are two excerpts:

12 Things your Crying Baby Wants you to Know

1. I am not crying to make your life more difficult. I am crying because something is wrong. Even if it does not seem like it.

2. I am brand new. I do not have control of my nervous system. I am disorganized. Being with you; hearing your heartbeat, smelling your scent… it calms me. It helps me.

3. The fact that I cannot stop crying is not your fault. I know your are doing your best. We are just getting to know each other. We will get there- please stick with me.

4. You are my world. You are my everything. You are all that I know. I do not have anybody else that can provide for me what you can.

5. I do not need to cry. It does not exercise my lungs, or provide any other benefit.

6. The stress chemicals that are released when I cry (that stay with me my whole life) are lessened when you hold me while I cry.

7. Please nurse me. No matter how much I ask for it. Forget the time or how tired you are. If nursing helps me to stop crying, please nurse me.

8. Do not listen to anybody else- not your neighbor, not your aunt. Forget the book that you read which talked about helping me to learn to self soothe. Just listen to me. And you. Forget the world outside of ours.

9. I cannot self soothe. It is not possible. If I stop crying when you leave me alone, it is because I have given up hope that you will comfort me.

10. If you are at your breaking point ask for help; with the dishes, the laundry and preparing meals. If I am content with somebody else, please use that time to shower or change or have a cup of tea.

11. I know this stuff is hard to hear. We live in a world that promotes political correctness at the expense of others. My needs are real, and I really need you; even when this means eating one handed and with dirty hair. I am your baby. You are my mother.

12. This will not last forever. It feels like it now because we are in this time warp of newbornhood. If you comfort me now, I will be calmer sooner. We will be closer. This time will end- this is not the rest of your life. While you may never long for the crying, your wiser self will be grateful to know that you trusted me, and yourself, from the very beginning.

Most importantly, I love you Mom. Thank you for trying so hard and taking such good care of me. -from an unknown article


...what if you were unable to move, feed yourself, change your clothes when you pee or poop, adjust your tempature, unable to speak English and to have Saran Wrap wrapped around yours eyes? -from an unknown article
That's what it feels like to be a baby. They are 100% dependent on you. 

A toddler is a different story. Toddlers have tantrums. Babies do not. When my son doesn't get his way, sometimes he throws a tantrum. It's frustrating but it's also his way if dealing with his emotions right now. Children need to be taught how to deal with emotions at the proper age. When my son throws a tantrum, he can either stop and calm down or go sit by himself until he can calm down. Then he will tell me he's all done and we will figure out what emotion he's feeling and why. I will then explain why he has to feel that emotion at the time. (impatient and frustrated, because cookies need time to bake before you can eat them. It doesn't mean you won't get a cookie, it just means you have to wait a little bit first. Or. Sad because he wants to stay up later, your body needs rest to grow and stay healthy. We will play more tomorrow. Then we make a list on his fingers of 3-5 things he wants to do the next day.) 
We have found this really helps him to realize that he will have more fun later. 

Kids are wonderful. They're the best gift I could ever have received. I'm so thankful for them. Sometimes mommys have to remind themselves that their little ones are not an inconvenience. 

It's all in the potty!

I have two sons. Our two year old uses the potty (most of the time). It's a good day when it doesn't shoot to the ceiling or the walls or the toilet seat lid or the floor or the toilet paper on the holder....or onto daddy :)
I love to see my children grow and discover. 

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Snow

It's the last day of December. I'm sitting on my couch, feeding my newest son, my oldest son sleeping quietly next to me; and watching out my window the slowly falling snow. (During the commercials of Friends.) I'm realizing how beautiful the snow is for the first time since childhood. You see, I have nowhere to go, and when you don't have to drive in the snow fearing for your life, the snow is pretty.

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Breakfast peach cobbler

Ok ok it's not really peach cobbler, but it sounds fancier that way. :-)

Peaches and cottage cheese. Yum!

Homemade lunchables

Easy lunch boxes are awesome. They don't warp in the dishwasher. They're sturdy, and easy enough for kids to open at school. Plus they're fun colors. 

I've been making my own lunchables this week. I got Colby jack cheese, smoked turkey, and ritz. I fill a compartment with little sweet tomatoes and I'm all set. I packed up all the ingredients and assembled at work so the crackers don't get soggy. 

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Tropical chicken

Easiest recipe ever. Put some frozen chicken breasts in the bottom of a baking dish. Pour a large can of tropical fruit with juice over it. Even it out so fruit isn't all in one spot (this is what stage the picture is at). I baked it at 350 for half an hour, then covered it loosely with foil and baked at 420 for another half hour. (because I also made tator tots and that's the cooking temp and time for them.) this is just something I thought of one day and its so yummy. The chicken takes on a slight pineapple taste. It's good with the ketchup the gets smeared from the tots too. :)